Picking the right girl

This probably won’t come as a shock to, well, anyone.  But there’s no secret formula for picking the right girl.  Of the millions of people that get married each year, I’m certain that everyone feels they’ve found “the one,” yet almost half will end up getting divorced.  Picking the right girl from the very beginning is the most important thing you can do to ensure that  your life isn’t eventually turned upside down from divorce. Unfortunately, as we all know, it’s also the most difficult.
So how do you know you’ve found her?
You don’t.  There will always be unknowns in every relationship that no one would have ever predicted.  She could be predisposed to something that, literally, makes her crazy/crazier as she ages.  Or maybe one of you will find out you can’t have kids, and that eventually drives a fork between the two of you.  The point is you can’t account for the unknown.  So don’t sweat it.  Let. it. go.  Focus on what you do know.

And that’s what I can help you with.  I’m going to ask you a very simple, very obvious question.  If you can’t say yes to the following, I have no doubt you’re not picking the right girl for you.  So think before you answer.  Seriously.  Think long and hard and decide if you’re being honest with yourself, because if you’re not, the chance that you’ll end up a statistic of a divorce will surely increase.
Is she your best friend?
If you can’t say “yes” to that question, you’re either not ready to get married or you’re not with the right girl.  Forget how compatible you might look on paper.  Don’t focus on how beautiful she might be.  Her great ass is simply a temptation sent from an expensive divorce attorney 20 years from now.  That great sex you’re enjoying in the early stages of your relationship likely won’t be a factor in 2039, so get it out of your mind.
Is there a single person on this earth you’d more like to spend your day with?  Does she make you feel good about yourself?  Does she make you laugh?  Do you like hanging out with her – like you would one of your buddies?  Can you get into an argument without losing the slightest bit of respect for her?  You get the idea.  These are the kinds of questions you can ask yourself and feel confident that you’re making a good decision; one that will likely lead you to believe that you made a wise decision when it came to picking the right girl.


Think you have a better grasp on how to pick the right girl? Let me hear from you! Either comment below or join the forum discussion here: http://groomedtobe.com/smf/index.php?topic=1856.0    Thanks!

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